The #1 Non-Diet Strategy to Lose Weight (Without Trying Hard)

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Expert Reviewed By

Dr. Lauryn Lax, OTD, MS

Dr. Lauryn, OTD, MS is a doctor of occupational therapy, clinical nutritionists and functional medicine expert with 25 years of clinical and personal experience in healing from complex chronic health issues and helping others do the same.

“I just want to lose weight like 5 to 10 pounds” #SaidManyPeople… sound familiar?

Gurus tell you:

It’s your hormones!

It’s the carbs and sugar!

It’s the toxins!

It’s the exercise! 

It’s your thyroid!

Contrary to popular belief, it’s none of these things.

Unwanted weight gain is often related to a figurative “water retention conflict” in your life, also known as an “AIRE conflict.” 

AIRE is an acronym for Abandonment, Isolation, Refugee, Existence. We need AIR(E) to survive.

If you experience a feeling of AIRE, the body will retain essential water (gain weight) so it does not “perish” – an age old survival mechanism.

The intelligent purpose of the body is to assist YOU during times of distress—like a fish out of water that needs water to survive. There are great strategies to lose weight.

Do any of these sound familiar?

Best Strategies to Lose Weight Effectively

Lose Weight - Young Woman Drinking Water

AIRE Conflicts Explained here:


Conflicts are all about feeling left behind, deserted, discarded, banished, undesired and even ostracized. We may be separated, neglected, passed over, rejected, cut off and of course, abandoned.

Some examples include: a child experiencing a parent move out after a divorce, feeling rejected by the “cool” kids in middle school, your best friend moving away, a breakup or a partner who has emotionally withdrawn their love. 


Lose Weight - Younf Woman Feeling Alone And Abandoned

Conflicts are similar to Abandonment and are all about feeling alone and emotionally unsupported. You’re on your own, no one to lean on, no one to hold you up, no support, you’re secluded.

Examples would be losing a loved one, becoming an empty nester, a lack of community and connection, the ending of an “era” (such as a high school football team or college days), hospitalization and illness, bullying, feeling alone in your beliefs (health, politics, religion, values, etc.), social media comparison (FOMO).


Conflict is related to feeling like we are without roots, without a home, out of place, out of familiar surroundings, out of our element, thrown out of the familiar surroundings of home, work, or family – moving, relocation, travel.

Examples: Frequent travel, frequent moving, going to college, leaving home, starting over, feeling different than everyone else.


Lose Weight - A Mom Writing Down Things While Taking Care Of Her Child

Conflict has to do with purpose or our survival. An existence conflict arises when we feel our very life, even our livelihood is threatened – by a diagnosis like cancer, a near-death experience, a loss of job or career, loss of home to foreclosure (refugee as well), bankruptcy, substance abuse, basic needs not being met.

AIRE Conflict Byproduct

Weight gain and gut problems like bloating are often a byproduct of an AIRE conflict in your life. 

Interestingly, the overweight and obesity epidemic is due, in part, to the chronicity of this AIRE program. Two liters of water in our tissue weighs four and one half pounds.

We can retain upwards of ten times that when both kidneys (responsible for water retention) are active with conflict. Of course diet, exercise and sleep matter, BUT if you’re “doing all the things” and still gaining or unable to lose weight…this weight goes deeper. 

Once we figure out the root cause, the conflict begins to resolve.

Ready to take your health back into your own hands? Book a complimentary call with Dr. Lauryn at our virtual functional medicine clinic to strategize a game plan for healing…now. 

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