Getting Unstuck from a Rut (Changing Habits)

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Written By

Rhea Dali

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Expert Reviewed By

Dr. Lauryn Lax, OTD, MS

Dr. Lauryn, OTD, MS is a doctor of occupational therapy, clinical nutritionists and functional medicine expert with 25 years of clinical and personal experience in healing from complex chronic health issues and helping others do the same.

Do you feel stuck in a rut, a habit, or something else in your life holding you back? You are called to be FREE! Here’s how…

 

Statistics have a way of falling on deaf ears.

 

We hear facts like:

 

And, we are unaffected.

 

Maybe you think:

 

“Hmm…cool…that’s a lot…” Or, “I had no idea…”

 

But, for the most part, numbers are just numbers (yawn).

 

Occasionally though, there are numbers, statistics, that strike closer to home (meaning, it relates to you), and those numbers have a way of meaning something a little bit more.

 

This past weekend, at the IF Gathering in Austin, I heard this statistic…

 

Around the world today, there are an estimated 36 million men, women and children trapped in modern slavery.”

…And it rocked my world.

 

 

 

 

The stat came directly from a former victim of slavery, speaking out on the matter.

 

And while the concept of slavery, in general, may seem like a concept we learned about in 9th grade History class, or a foreign dilemma—confined to countries far, far away; people living in undeveloped worlds…

 

It’s NOT.

 

I am a victim of slavery.

 

And chances are…you are too.

 

For 14 years, I lived enslaved to an all-controlling eating disorder that left me with nothing more than duct tape on my mouth and bindings on my wrists and ankles—constrained to follow and adhere to whatever absurd commands it mandated I do:

 

  • “Step, step, step” (hours away) on the StairMaster
  • “Run, run, run”—even when my ankle was sprained or I had only slept 4 hours the night before
  • “No more food for you!”—even if I was still hungry after finishing a meal
  • “Ugly. Ugh. Look at you. Disgusting.”
  • “Not good enough.”
  • “No one likes you.”
  • “That’s a stupid idea.”
  • “You’re pathetic.”
  • “You’re never going to _____.”

 

Physically, verbally and mentally abusive—this ‘master’ left me black and blue, day in and day out; and yet, as much as I hated living like this, I had no other option. I knew no other way.

 

And, like a woman who finds herself in an abusive, destructive relationship (and yet, keeps running back), I found an odd sense of comfort in my slavery.

 

That is until I heard this truth—and believed it for the first time:

 

“The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me, Because the LORD has anointed me To bring good news to the afflicted; He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to captives And freedom to prisoners”—Isaiah 61:1

 

Fast forward to today—chains CAN be broken.

Lives can be healed.

Hearts can be mended and restored.

We can overcome—whatever struggle, or slavery, we find ourselves “stuck in”—trying—with all its might—to hold us back.

 

The question for you, and I, today is: What are you still in bondage to?

 

What are the habits, the “old ways”, the thoughts, the patterns that we still find ourselves enslaved to, or struggling with?

 

  • Stinkin’ thinkin’ (always ourselves own worst critic)
  • The beauty idol—constantly measuring ourselves up to the girls on magazines or our Instagram feeds
  • Seeking approval from others
  • Looking to a guy’s attention and affection to affirm us of our worth
  • Using food or exercise to feel in control of our lives or bodies
  • Binging or looking to food to ‘calm’ our inner storms
  • Trying, with our own will and might, to conquer battles
  • The constant need for affirmation through the number of “likes” on our social media accounts; acknowledgment from others about our looks or performance; or a stacked social agenda
  • Appearing like we “have it all together”
  • Constantly throwing ‘jabs’ at ourselves or hating on our bodies
  • Gossiping about others and getting caught up in ‘keeping up with the Joneses’
  • The cute clothes we wear—and being super cute and fashionable (at all times)
  • Workaholism
  • Worry
  • Stress and anxiety
  • Financial concerns or striving

 

…And on and on.

 

We ALL struggle with something—multiple things—in our lives.

 

And, while struggles (and our heart’s odd desire to find comfort in slavery) are a guaranteed part of life…you (and I) dear sisters have been given FREEDOM from any of the chains that bind us.

 

And when we know the truth—and embrace the truth—it is the truth sets us free.

 

How the heck do we “run to the truth”?

 

Surrender.

 

Instead of trying so hard, I find when I press PAUSE on my hamster wheel, and look UP…I find more clarity and release from the chains.

 

I LOVE to pray specific prayers and see God move. (Because he will).

 

The prayer I prayed at the ROCK BOTTOM moment in my slavery of my eating disorder the morning of the “YMCA Angels” intervention?

 

“God, help me make a change today.”

 

He hears you.

 

My prayer for you (and I) today?

 

“God, I pray that you do FAR MORE ABUNDANTLY than all we ask, see, think, dream or imagine in our lives with the struggles and chains that currently bind us.”

You are NOT called to be perfect.

 

You are called to be free.

 

And even in the midst of your struggle or slavery, He loves making the ‘impossible’ possible. (Mark 9:23: “”‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes”).

 

Push pause on that thought…that impulse…that ‘hamster wheel’ behavior…that habit…and for a second, pray it up.

 

Will you let Him?

 

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