In sight in mind
I knew I shouldn’t have done it.
But I did it.
I set foot inside Nordstrom.
I couldn’t resist: a 40% off Fall clearance sale.
My friend Jordyn, who is a total style guru told me about it.
Jordyn knows best! (What are friends for?!)
And, on the lookout for a pair of nude colored pumps for the fall, I thought, ‘Why not?’
After all, what does a little window shopping ever hurt?
…Apparently, it stings!
I’ll be the first to admit it: I am an “in sight, in mind” kind of shopper.
98% of the time, I don’t ever think about shopping.
Much more comfortable in a pair of Lululemon Pace Rival crops and Swiftly top, I perhaps have gone to the ‘other extreme’—after years (and years and years) spent obsessing over fashion, trends and ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ in Lucky magazine.
Reflecting back: I spent hundreds upon hundreds of dollars on clothes I never as so much wore, and countless hours stressing, and planning, and concocting the ‘perfect’ outfits to wear day in and day out—until there was no tomorrow.
Suffice all to say: I wasted a lot of money and time.
In fact, to this day, I am still dissecting through clothes in my closet—bearing tags of pieces I never once wore—in the name of “having the latest and greatest duds”, all for naught.
However…there is something about Nordstrom, Anthropologie, or yes, Lulelemon that gets me everytime—and despite my best of intentions to refrain from breaking out the Visa, it somehow magically seems to jump out of my wallet when something strikes my fancy.
It’s been this way for as long as I can remember!
Dating back to my early years:
Take me to Wal-Mart as a kid—and 9 times out of 10, I saw a Barbie I wanted (and needed).
Fast forward to the 6th and 7th grade, my friends and I would spend hours upon hours every Saturday at the mall—perusing the Limited Too, Claire’s, Gap, Abercrombie, American Eagle, and every weekend, without fail, my hard-earned allowance somehow went to a pair of earrings, a top I ‘had to have’, or temporary tattoos (wise money choice, Lauryn, wise choice).
Come college, I spent $1000 in 3-weeks—all at Urban Outfitters—a store that just so happened to be located on UT-Austin’s campus “drag”—conveniently on my way to class.
Today, like I said, I rarely shop (I think I got it out of my system at a young age).
Nevertheless…a handful of times throughout the year (namely: change in seasons when ‘fall clothes’ and ‘winter clothes’ and ‘spring clothes’ and ‘summer clothes’ are necessary to break out), I muster up the gusto to go on a shopping mission…and 9 times out of 10…I find something (or many things)—and my inner former Shopping MONSTER comes out! (i.e. the ‘Gimmee bears’).
My most recent excursion finds?
-Tory Burch neutral pumps
-2 cute flannels (apparently the trend this season)
-a pink sweater with gold trim
-an ivory sweater
-a delicate Kendra Scott necklace
-a pair of fit-like-a-glove jeans and off-white corduroy pants
While I perhaps didn’t ‘need’ any of it—a little post-birthday fashion only comes but once a year, and this is the one time of year I actually splurge on anything remotely close to shopping (tucking away the Shopping Monster now).
In spite of my often impulsive lurch at anything amazingly cute in my favorite stroes—Anthropologie, Nordstrom or Lululemon—a practice I’ve begun incorporating is the art of: Walking away.
Leaving the clothes I am thinking about purchasing on hold.
Walking away for a day—or several; taking inventory of my closet; then coming back, with fresh perspective on the pieces I truly want to purchase.
My recent shopping experiential got me thinking of the ‘secret magic’ to ‘making good choices’—outside the mall and shopping experience.
From changing a habit or implementing healthier choices in our lives (nutrition, exercise, water drinking, etc.), the ‘secret magic’ often comes down to: out of sight out of mind.
In other words: if you really want to change something—or ‘stay on the path’—sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is cut it out, and allow no room for it into the budget.
Another 90’s reference people: Joey from “Full House”: “Cut it out!”
This may sound harsh at first, but often times clarity is not won until we take a step away from the situation.
Exhibit A: Sugar. “I just can’t help it.” “I get cravings for sweets and I just have to have something.” “I can’t so much as look at a piece of Halloween candy or piece of pumpkin pie.” Sugar is America’s #1 addiction. With approximately 3 lbs. consumed EACH WEEK by the average person, if you struggle with this, you aren’t alone.
How to curb your inner sugar monster?
Cut it out. Don’t keep it in the house. Just say ‘no’ to the dessert menu.
For a time.
NOT forevermore (hello, weddings and birthdays happen! And what is life without chocolate? After all “life is like a box of chocolates).
But for a time. Yes. Cut it out.
By tossing the ice cream, the cookies, the packaged sweet treats, you really are doing yourself a favor.
Instead, aim to incorporate more essential fatty acids (avocados, nuts/seeds, coconut butter, coconut oil, ghee, grassfed butter, extra virgin olive oil, olives, fatty fish, egg yolks) into your diet.
Reach for more water throughout your day.
Ask yourself: Am I really hungry or is this a craving? (chances are, your sugar ‘needs’ are cravings 99% of the time). And, if it is a craving—what are you really craving? (Comfort? Energy? Boredom relief?). Address the real issues.
Exhibit B: The same ol’, same ol’. Perhaps for you, it’s the ‘rut’ you are in—the same ol’ same ol’ job you hate, obligations you despise, activities and to-dos that fill your daily schedule that you simply just don’t enjoy. You do it for the money; the ‘have to’; the…actually, you really don’t know WHY you do it. But you do. And you really wish you didn’t have to.
Guess what: You don’t.
You don’t have to stay stuck in a rut…or stuck in a habit.
YOU my friend, have the power within you to change your situation.
And, often times, in order to get out of our ‘ruts’, we have to walk away from the rut, the habit, the behavior, in order to then perhaps come back to it in full-circle.
For instance: Abusing running? Overkilling it on the trails (and on your body)? Sometimes a much-needed break is exactly what your body may need in order to come back with new vigor.
Tired of day in and day out doing the same ol thing? Waking up at 5 or 6 am…eating your same ol same ol breakfast…going to your dreaded j-o-b…getting off an going to happy hour…making some sort of concoction at dinner—whatever you can muster your un-enthused cook inside to make…
Girl! Stop it. You don’t have to do the same ol, same ol every day (how boring!). Think about ways to SPICE IT UP…Get out of your rut…
Abstain from the ruts, the habits, the same ol’, same ol’ routines, and you may very well find new wind beneath your wings to…
- Conquer your goals
- Do a job you love
- Find an exercise routine you actually enjoy
- Make a real, lasting change
- Break a bad habit; and start a new one
- Feel amazing…
…Just to name a few.
Walk away from Nordstrom (or Anthropologie, or Lululemon)…breathe, gain clarity and a fresh perspective…really, really think about how you want to approach a situation, a habit, a behavior…then, come back to it.
Chances are, your decisions will be far more sweeter.
Speaking of sweet…get ready, get set…
THRIVE’s 10-day Sugar Detox kicks off in about 2 weeks!
Beginning November 30th, through December 9th, we are re-setting (and taming) the inner Sugar Monsters, post-Thanksgiving, in order to, more than anything, approach the holiday season on your ‘A-game’, and in a healthy frame of mind, despite all the ‘tempting’ sweet treats around.
Not only will you learn where your cravings are rooted, but you will also ‘do your body good’ with clearer skin, less illness and sickness, more energy and improved digestion.
To register for THRIVE’s Guided Sugar Detox, please contact me here: [email protected]. Cost is only $25 and includes 10-days of guidance, THRIVE community, delicious recipes and an all-you-need-to-know (and more) Detox Manual.
LET’S DO THIS!