Oh the dreaded bikini shopping.
I LOVE SWIMSUIT SHOPPING!
Nevertheless, this weekend I embarked on the mission.
“Wana go bikini shopping with me? I need a suit.” (insert: nervous-looking Emoji) I texted my friend Jordyn.
“Uh yea! Swimsuit shopping is so much better with someone else.” She told me.
And with that, we hit up the Swim Apparel department at Nordstrom.
Pink. Turquoise. Black. Green. String. Halter. Tube-top. One-piece. Cut out.
Shopping for swimsuits is like walking down the cereal aisle at the grocery store as a kid—so many options to choose from (too many).
Yet, not just any one will do.
When you’re swimsuit shopping there is faaaarrrrr more that goes into it then looking for that right pair of jeans, cute top, pair of shoes or breakfast cereal for that matter.
(After all, if you’re going to be half-naked in something, then you at least want to feel at least moderately “comfortable.”)
It’d been a moment since I had been swimsuit shopping in a dressing room.
(I am not much of a swimmer or layer-outer in the summertime, and many of my suits have lasted me a few good years. Additionally, if anything, I am more apt to typically order something online than putting on my shopping game face to brave the mall).
Heading to the dressing room, I was reminded of that little “inner mean girl”w e all have deep down inside of us, that likes to come out in play in moments of “weakness” (like swimsuit shopping).
Buckle your seatbelt, I told myself.
I hate that voice—that inner mean girl voice—that whispers “You’re not good enough”, taunts and points at any flaw, and attempts to kick you down even more when you’re already down.
You know her:
“Eww look at your thighs.”
“Oy vey! That stomach!”
“Start working out and dieting….Like yesterday.”
“You’re such a loser.”
“No one really likes you.”
Whispering sweet nothings in your ear right?
Smiling to myself with my suits in hand, I thought: Hmmm…Game on.
INSTEAD OF BEATING UP MYSELF TODAY, WHAT IF I GENUINELY LOVED MY BODY AND MYSELF right where it’s at?
The tactic worked.
For the first time ever in my own bikini shopping experiences, , swimsuit shopping WAS actually a blast.
Instead of picking my body apart—flaw by flaw; perception by perception; “if only _____ (fill in the blank)”, I chose a mindset full of love, gratitude…a DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE.
Whether you have swimsuit shopping around the corner, or…
- You slipped on a pair of pants this morning (that hugged a bit tighter than usual), or
- Catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, or,
- You find yourself looking at your Instagram feed (and automatically comparing yourself to every girl in a sports bra or bikini)…
Today, actively choose to see your body differently.
It may not feel normal at first, but by reframing those “You are ugly” statements; “If only you lost (or gained) 5 lbs.” cut-downs; and other body-shaming broken records, a new genuine mindset begins to take over.
Soooo….wana go bikini shopping this weekend?
As you embody a new frame of mind, you may very well find yourself proclaiming “YES!”
Bonus: 5 Bikini Mindset Tips
I am all about having a bikini mindset: including the healthy, thriving body you want with a mindset that is TWICE as stunning. In fact, that’s what my new 30-day program: The Bikini Mindset Program is all about. Here is a SNEAK PEAK of what’s coming.
Think about it…there are hundreds of “Bikini Body” programs out there–workout plans, nutrition plans, gimmicks and shake-weights, proclaiming the keys to success for a body you love…but don’t they realize, genuinely being comfortable and confident in your own skin STARTS and ENDS in the mind? Otherwise, we are NEVER going to be truly, 100% satisfied.
You CAN have your cake an eat it too–a body AND mind that are strong, powerful and rocking!
For your Motivation Monday, here are 5 tips for getting your body and mind bikini ready as the temps rise outside.
Did you know that about 75% of folks are chronically dehydrated? (as in not drinking enough water?!). Dehydration leads to constipation, bloating, poor memory and concentration, low energy, poor nutrient absorption, and dry skin—just to name a few. Drink half your bodyweight in ounces of water each day as a minimum (ex. A girl who weighs 130 lbs. would need at least 65 ounces of water).
Nothing kills your bikini-body mojo than constipation and bloating, leaving you with that “ugh” feeling. Keep constipation and bloating at bay naturally: (1.) Incorporate 2-3 spoonfuls of sauerkraut (or other fermented foods) 1-2 times per day, or at the very least, take a probiotic supplement. (2.) Start your day off with 12-16 ounces of lemon water; (3.) Chew your food really really well and be mindful during your meals (taste it, enjoy it—rather than eating mindlessly watching TV, paying bills or on-the-go all the time). For more ideas, check out this post too!
Eat your greens.
You hear it all the time—but do you actually do it? Green veggies are full of de-bloating fiber; packed with vitamins and minerals necessary for all things health; hydrating; energy-boosting and help you digest your food better. Aim for greens 2-3 times per day with meals (especially leafy greens cooked in a hint of coconut oil or ghee are powerhouses for absorption and digestion).
Back Away from the Treadmill.
Many chicks think the more cardio, the better—particularly during seasons of “crunch time” (like bikini season now). However, the only things all that running and spinning and ellipticizing is doing for you is…making you go crazy and obsess even more about burning calories, getting lean, eating your next meal that you “earned” or looking hot in your summertime apparel. In other words: Running and cardio alone are not building a “toned” body you may be striving for—but a dissatisfied mind instead. Cut back on the cardio, and up the weights. Weight training is not only where “tone” or “lean body mass” is won, but also has the power to enhance your self-confidence, build a butt, better balance your cortisol levels (stress levels) that chronic cardio throws out of line, and stop feeling like a hamster (doing the same routine day in and day out). Push the pause button on the cardio machines and put some pesos (i.e. weights) into your life.
Dress for YOUR Body.
If you’re going to wear a swimsuit (or anything else for that matter), wear what works for YOUR body. String bikinis are not flattering on this flat-chested, narrow-shoulder gal. I tend to opt for halter ties. The same goes for clothes. Instead of letting your clothes wear you, YOU wear the clothes.
So as we think, therefore we become. See yourself as the healthy you you WANT TO BE. Who is she? What does she look like? Act like? Do? What daily choices and actions does she make—not only with food and fitness—but her self-care; the ways she spends her time; the people she surrounds herself with; the messages, books and music she puts into her head…all of it. So as we think, we WILL become—so begin to embody the girl (the healthy you) that you want to be. Rock it.